Sometimes I think this can’t be real life

by Lindsey on March 27, 2017

in J&L Fall in Love, Just Us

Alternatively titled: I believe in soulmates, and I believe I found mine. (And I’m pretty sure my husband found his, as well!)

*This post will be schmoopy, and mushy, and may seem a bit braggy (though I promise that’s not what I’m going for). Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

When Justin and I met, neither of us was looking for the other. It just kind of happened, in this magical, meant to be, kind of way. At the time, I knew we had something special, but now, almost ten years later, it still shocks me. Our marriage is like nothing I ever expected it to be, and I mean that in the best way possible, but there are things about our relationship that make no sense to me.

For one, I honestly cannot remember the last time we argued about something, and I know people say that, but I mean it. We really don’t argue. Sure, we disagree on things, but we don’t fight about anything. We have this weird way of compromising before we’ve even realized we disagree.

Secondly, we spend an awful lot of time together and don’t get sick of each other. I mean, cmon, is it realistic for two people to spend every waking moment together, from carpooling to work, seeing each other repeatedly throughout the day, carpooling home, and then spending all evening together, without wanting to kill each other eventually?

Does this mean there aren’t things we wish were different about each other? Absolutely not. I think everyone wishes something was different about their significant other. For example, I would love it if Justin was more passionate about things, and I know he wishes I wasn’t so overly passionate about everything. When I’m happy about something, I’m ecstatic, and when I’m sad about something, I’m bawling my eyes out. There really is no middle ground for me. Justin, on the other hand, seems to always be on middle ground. He doesn’t get worked up about anything, doesn’t let anything break him, but he also never gets super excited about stuff either. To put this into perspective, on our wedding day, I was all “OMG WE’RE GETTING MARRIED THIS IS THE BEST DAY EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!” while Justin was like “Yea, it’s our wedding day, cool.”

Of course, that’s just one example, but instead of letting these things get between us, we find ways to bring out the best in each other. It’s taken us ten years, but we’ve found a perfect balance. He talks me off the ledge when I need him to, and I’m teaching him that it’s okay to show emotion sometimes. He helps me slow down, and realize I don’t have to go full force all the time, and I’m helping him be a go-getter when he wants something that I know he deserves.

The point is, we’re both human, we’re both slightly flawed, and we both make mistakes. But, we love each other anyway.

So I guess maybe this is really another one of my letters to Justin, to say thank you for loving me anyway. I choose you.


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